Fun Questions for Couples


Angela and I have been married for 25+ years. I am so blessed to have her as my bride. Other than my relationship with God, my relationship with her is my priority. Not just the state of being married, but the act of being married: time together, making decisions together, managing our kids together, serving the Lord together and all-of-life together. I love being married to her!

As I am always trying to build into our relationship, I learn a lot by watching other married couples who are further down the road than we are. One thing I have learned that I do NOT want to do or become is a couple that goes out to eat in public, orders our food and then sits across from each other….SILENT. I see it a lot. Makes me sad.

(Recently, I saw something that made me even sadder. The same scenario…older couple, out to eat, sitting across from each other, silent…and both faces in their phones! Ugh!) 

On the heels of this moment, I have friends who are going away for the weekend. They are so disciplined to make this trip at least two times a year. It’s not a “Dr. Phil” project or super spiritual couples retreat. It’s just a trip to remind themselves, their kids, family and friends that their marriage is a priority. It’s also a time to talk about where they are headed in life, in their family and in their marriage.

I did not make the list because they need help in communication. A list like this just makes it real easy because you just answer the questions. Hopefully, the answers just parlay into more communication and more communication brings people together. (And gives you something to talk about and not stare at the wall or your phone!)

  1. When was the first time you became aware of me?
  2. Do you remember the first thing we said to one another?
  3. What was your first impression of me? Did you ever dislike me?
  4. What’s your favorite memory of me?
  5. What do you like best about me?
  6. What is your favorite way of spending time with me?
  7. How would you describe yourself?
  8. What is something you did as a teen that your parents never learned about?
  9. Who was the first person you kissed? What were the circumstances?
  10. What’s the craziest dream you’ve ever had?
  11. What’s the most recent dream you can remember?
  12. What is your first childhood memory?
  13. What was the happiest moment of your life?
  14. What was your most embarrassing moment? How did you respond?
  15. Who has been the most influential person in your life?
  16. Do you have any birthmarks? If so, where?
  17. How would you like to be remembered?
  18. What’s your favorite time of the year? Why?
  19. What is your favorite holiday?
  20. Who is your favorite actor? Actress?
  21. Who is your least favorite actor or actress?
  22. What’s your favorite color?
  23. What is your least favorite color?
  24. What’s your favorite type of food? Least favorite type of food?
  25. If you could go anywhere on a vacation, where would you go?
  26. If you were asked to give yourself a nickname, what would it be?
  27. If you were asked to give me a nickname, what would it be?
  28. What’s the first thing you would do if you won $50,000?
  29. What would you do if you had one day left to live?
  30. If you could meet anyone in the world, alive or dead, who would it be?
  31. What does friendship look like to you?
  32. What is the trait you value most?
  33. What do you consider your greatest weakness to be?
  34. How do you think others perceive you when they meet you for the first time?
  35. What does your perfect day look like?
  36. What is your biggest unacknowledged dream?
  37. If you could eat anything at all right now, what would you choose?
  38. Do you consider yourself a good friend?
  39. What is your favorite thing to do?
  40. Who is your favorite fictional character ever?
  41. Would you rather be rich or famous?
  42. If you had to save the world by killing one person, could you live with yourself?
  43. What does love look like to you?
  44. What is something you would really like to get better at?
  45. What is your favorite dessert?
  46. You’re going to a desert island. What three things/people do you take?
  47. If you could choose any name besides your own, what name would you give yourself?
  48. What makes you feel most loved?
  49. What is your favorite memory of dating me?
  50. What is your favorite sexual memory of us?
  51. What food reminds you of me?
  52. What is your favorite thing that I do for you?
  53. What movie reminds you of us?
  54. Which of your parents are you most like?
  55. Which of our kids are most like you?
  56. What’s my best physical feature?
  57. What’s your favorite time of day to be intimate?
  58. Do you like kissing or hugging more?
  59. Do you ever get jealous if you see me talking to other attractive people?
  60. Do you ever dream about me?
  61. What do you think we need to work on the most in our relationship?
  62. If you got sick, do you think I would be there to care for you?
  63. When did you know you wanted to kiss me?
  64. What’s your favorite (non-sex) activity that we do together?
  65. What is your favorite thing I ever did for a special occasion for you?
  66. Do you ever think about me sexually during the day?
  67. What is something I could do to make you trust me even more?
  68. When do you feel the most protected and taken care of?
  69. What can I do to make sure you feel safe with me?
  70. When we hang out with friends, do I make you feel like you’re still my priority?
  71. When we are with my family, do I make you feel like you’re still my priority?
  72. What was the very first thing you thought about me?
  73. When did you first think I was attractive?
  74. How long do you think people should wait before having kids?
  75. What did you learn about marriage from your parents?
  76. What did you learn about physical affection from your parents?
  77. What is your favorite book?
  78. What is your favorite song?
  79. What was your first favorite movie, as a child?
  80. What do you want to do when you retire?
  81. Do you ever picture having grandchildren?
  82. What’s another career that you think you would love?
  83. What’s your favorite physical feature of your own?
  84. Who was your favorite teacher when you were a child?
  85. What’s your favorite memory with your mom?
  86. What’s your favorite memory with your dad?
  87. Which significant other before me had the biggest impact on you?
  88. What did you think after our first sexual experience?
  89. Did you like high school or college better?
  90. Where have you always wanted to travel?
  91. Did you ever consider a totally different career path?
  92. What was your favorite class in high school?
  93. What was the best party you ever went to?
  94. What’s the happiest you ever felt?
  95. What’s the most anxious you ever felt?
  96. What’s the angriest you ever felt?
  97. What’s a question you’ve never asked me?
  98. What’s your favorite personality trait of your own?
  99. Which of your personality traits do you wish you could change?
  100. Have you ever gotten really obsessed with some topic?
  101. Did you collect stuff as a child?
  102. Which of your parents did you go to when you wanted to talk?
  103. What’s the most scared you ever felt, as a child?
  104. What’s the accomplishment you are most proud of?
  105. Where do you want to be living in 10 years?
  106. Which of your friends would you choose if you had to be on a desert island with just one?
  107. Which of your friends is most like you?
  108. What do you think about couples who are married but live in different cities?
  109. What do you think about couples who own a business together and spend all their time together?
  110. Which would you like most: a summer house, a year-long vacation, or a boat?
  111. What would you do with a million dollars?
  112. What would you do with an extra $1,000 to spend only on yourself?
  113. When you were a kid, did you feel that you fit in?
  114. What was your favorite subject in middle school?
  115. Did you go through puberty before or after everyone else, or right on time?
  116. Who was your first crush?
  117. Who was your first kiss?
  118. Who was the first person to have a crush on you?
  119. Do you think of yourself as an introvert or an extrovert?
  120. If you could go back in time, what age would you be again?
  121. If you could see into the future, what would you want to know?
  122. What’s your greatest talent?
  123. What is your most unique trait?
  124. What is the best thing about our relationship?
  125. Do you ever compare yourself to other guys/girls?
  126. Which of my friends do you think is the most fun?
  127. Are you an optimist, a pessimist, or a realist?
  128. When you wake up in the middle of the night, what do you think about?
  129. If you had to change one thing about yourself, what would you pick?
  130. Do you think I’m more of an optimist, a pessimist, or a realist?
  131. As a teenager, did you ever rebel against your parents?
  132. Who’s the closest person to you in your extended family?
  133. Did you ever want more or fewer siblings?
  134. How did you siblings shape who you are?
  135. What was your favorite date night we ever had?
  136. Do you ever wish I could read your mind? When?
  137. What things about me make you know I’m the one for you?

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